The planning of a wedding requires a huge amount of effort and focus, and not a small amount of decision making. There is one decision, however, that really trumps all others… one so important that it makes the cake, dress, catering, and photography seem unimportant even put together. We are, of course, talking about your wedding vows. It used to be that everyone said the words prescribed by their religion, but more recently it has become more and more common for people to write their own, personalized wedding vows.
For better or for worse
When preparing your personalized wedding vows, there are some staple phrases like “for better, or for worse” which have been a part of wedding ceremonies for hundreds of years, but more recently it has become common, especially in non-denominational Christian sects, for couples to write their own vows, or to at least add personal elements to the traditional vows. This approach isn’t for everyone, though, so be sure to consider all the pros and cons before you make your decisions.
Heartfelt wedding vows
The first thing you have to ascertain is whether or not you are both convinced by the idea of writing your own personalized wedding vows. Then you can start the process of deciding what promises you would like to include. For those who want to keep a religious element there is always the possibility of keeping the basics of the traditional vows and adding a few personal touches. Likewise, you might want to write your vows from scratch.
Read on to find out the pros and cons of writing personalized wedding vows.
The Pros
- Personalized wedding vows will give your wedding ceremony an intimate and recognizable feel that will make the day even more special
- Expressing your love and commitment in a creative manner will make your day all the more engaging.
- Personalized wedding vows add a charming element of surprise to a ceremony that most will already be very familiar with.
- Personalized wedding vows will give your guests a peek into the dynamic and unique nature of your relationship, making the day all the more touching.
The Cons
- If one of you is very good with words and the other is less than confident it can be very stressful.
- You might not always agree on what the best tone to take is; if you want romance and your partner wants humor, it may cause friction.
- If speaking in front of crowds makes you queasy, it might make it harder when you’re also worried about how your vows sound.
At the Garza Blanca Preserve Resort & Spa we have expert wedding planners who can offer you advice on every aspect of your wedding. Why not ask their advice when writing your personalized wedding vows? They could help you get the tone just right.
